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Topic Posted by: amie
Date Posted: Mon Jun 16 8:06:59 2008
Additional Comments: Hello to all and welcome to the Monday Daily Topic. I hope everyone on board is doing well. For those of you that participated in last Monday's topic, I apologize for not responding, but I had a very busy day. I did read everyone's response, and as always, thanks for humoring me. Since yesterday was Father's Day, it's no surprise that todays topic will be about fathers.

WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME?

WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?

IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?

WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?

IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?


Last year, I also did a Father topic, it was emotional for me, because I miss my father so much. I know not everyone has had a wonderful relationship with their father, so share as much as you wish. I'll be checking in from time to time. May you all have a blessed day.





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Posted by: ingyandbert
Date posted: Mon Jun 16 12:36:41 2008
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WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? He goes by his initials, M.L.

WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? When I was growing up, he ran a business but he's been retired for 30 years now.  He was fortunate to retire early.

IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?  We used to tell him he reminded us of Archie Bunker

WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? Best, Andy Griffith.  Worst, Victor Newman (Y&R) 

IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE? Not really.  He's a loner and a very selfish person so it's hard to have a relationship with him.  He really just wants to be left alone so that's what I do.  I keep an eye on him from a distance and jump in when he needs help.  Otherwise, we don't talk much.

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  • I know you've mentioned your complicated relationship with your father before. He sounds alot like my father in law, and my husband has a difficult time forgiving and dealing with him. Family get togethers tend to be strained, many emotional wounds for the hubby. But like you, he watches from afar and intervenes when he musts. Take Care~amie
  • Yup, it amazes me that someone can have 5 children and a whole slew of grandkids and take no interest in any of them whatsoever. At family gatherings, he sits off to the side by himself and doesn't talk to anyone unless they speak first and even then he never asks them anything about themselves. From the time he gets there, he's simply waiting to leave. My poor mother! I'll never know how she put up with him for 50+ years. ~i&b

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    Posted by: Hillary
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 12:11:10 2008
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    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME?   Graydon

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?   Retired Police Officer but now he drives 18 Wheelers and pilots small airplanes for "fun".

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?  No, but the young Robert Redford always reminds me of my dad. He looks very much like him in "The Sting" and those earlier movies.

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?   (one of the)Best: George Banks in Father of the Bride  (one of the)Worst: Ray Gardener.

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?  Its complicated.

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  • I'm a huge Redford fan and I know this is totally inappropriate but if your dad looks like Booker from The Sting I have TWO words...hubba HUBBA.eom/Weeeee (my apologies, lol)
  • Hey W.E. I don't mind! I think he is an attractive man and very young looking for his nearly 64 years of age. He's got the blonde hair, the blue eyes, the straight teeth, the fabo jawline. What's not to appreciate about that? / Hill
  • George Banks, what a great character! I hear you Hill, complicated seems to be the best way to describe relationships with any parent!~amie

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    Posted by: valleygirl
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 11:20:34 2008
    Message:

    I was blessed with two wonderful father's, one of which is still with me.  My mother died when I was 16 months old, leaving my dad with myself, and two brothers; a 3 year old and the other a newborn baby who was born on my eldest brother's third birthday.  My dad didn't feel he could properly raise 3 small children on his own, so my eldest brother and I went to live with my mother's sister and her husband (and they have been my parents ever since), though we maintained a close relationship with my dad.  Due to one of my sister's (cousin, actually) having just come through heart surgery and needing a lot of care, my youngest brother went to live with another aunt and uncle, who later moved to Ohio, creating the American side of our family.  Anyways, now that I've given you a brief history lesson, on with the questions ...

    'My' Dad

    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME?  Donald Bell (Dad and his twin brother, Ronald, were adopted when they were 4, because their mother died when they were 3, and since Bell was the original family name, it was kept as my dad's middle name). 

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?  He was a logger as a young man, and after a few years in construction, he opened his own construction business, concentrating in window installation.  He also bought a seasonal Motor Court, which we ran as a family in the summertime.  When he 'retired' he built a log cabin from the ground up; clearing the land, cutting the lumber, building, wiring, and adding out buildings.  It was our oasis.   

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?  Dad used to sing 'Little Sir Echo' to us around the campfire on dry summer nights at the Motor Court, which is why I refer to valleydaughter's new kitten, Echo, as Little Sir Echo.  Michael Landon's Little House character, Charles Ingalls, has always reminded me of my dad, both in looks and temperment. 

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?  Charles Ingalls/Frank Costanza 

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?  We shared a mutual admiration and respect for one another.  When my dad was ill I flew across country to be by his side.  It was at that time we took to saying 'I love you' everytime we saw or spoke to one another on the phone.  He survived that visit, and lived for another 17 months.  The last thing I ever heard him say was 'I love you'.

     

    Dad  

    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME?  A good Scottish name ... Murdoch Fergus 

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?  He worked on the line at General Motors for over 30 years.  After 'retirement' he drove the senior's bus every Friday for 10 years (up until his triple bypass last summer) and spends a lot of time doing his Shriner's work.  He has also been a piper for over 60 years, and plays many engagments to this day.  

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?  'Amazing Grace' on the pipes. 

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?  See above. 

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?  Mom was a widow with two daughters when Dad married her.  She also had an elderly spinster aunt living with her.  Less than a year later, my brother and I moved in with them.  This newlywed man was part of a family of 7 in less than twelve months, and it never phased him.  There is no man on this earth who I admire more, and who's admiration means more to me.  He's a gruff Scotsman who never showed a lot of emotion, but he took to hugging me over the last 5 years or so, and his pride in me knows no bounds.   

     

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  • I remember seeing your Scottish daddy's photo last year, bagpipes and all. You are lucky to have been surrounded by the love of your family, even though you suffered the loss of your mother a such a young age. I forgot all about Charles Ingalls, he was a great father~amie
  • I have always been aware of my good fortune in being surrounded by love. I do have an error to correct though ... valleyguy is still on this earth, and his admiration and respect mean just as much to me as that of dad's. The fact that they admire and respect each other is counted as another of my blessings. ...valleygirl
  • You are indeed blessed with a loving family that you have passed along to your children. My mom's story is similar to yours only she had her mom until she was 12 but lost her dad when 18 months.eom/WE

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    Posted by: Jason Robert
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 9:34:03 2008
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    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? Robert Wayne.

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? Chemical Operator at BASF Chemical.

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? Any song by Peter, Paul and Mary... TV? Andy Griffin. You'd think he was older than he is... he's just an old soul.

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? Worst father? HA! Darth Vader!

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE? We've come a long, long way.

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  • Darth Vadar was a crappy dad, but at least he saved Luke in the end. Relationships with dad are complicated, I'm glad you've come a long way in yours and I hope it keeps heading in the right direction. Take Care ~amie
  • Jason I love reading that you came a long long way and I hope that (cliche alert) journey continues.eom/WE

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    Posted by: Allys Mom
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 9:25:34 2008
    Message:

    Good morning all and Happy Monday!  I hope everyone had a wonderful weekend!

    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? Gerald Wayne

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? Well, right now he is 'retired' but he does employee hearing testing for companies around the state, he teaches fire-fighter classes for the state and he is the trainer for the area volunteer fire department where he was chief for a good number of years and is a part-time farmer.  When he was 'working' he was a buyer for a nuclear power facility here in town and was the head of their emergency team.  He is a firefighter, EMT, hazardous materials expert and a certified fire fighter instructor for the state of Virginia as well as a part time farmer!

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? My dad is totally 100% exactly like Andy Taylor!  He sort of looks like him, talks like him, acts like him, etc.

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? Andy Taylor, hands down.......

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?  My daddy and I have always been VERY close.  When I was little, we did everything together and now that I've moved back to the family farm, we do now too!  He has never, ever even raised his voice to me.  We have just always had that 'thing' where we just always got along, and I never did anything to ever disappoint him.  Everyone says we are exactly alike!  We are both really easy going, etc.  I don't know what I'd do without him!  He is my favorite person in the whole world!!  And he is the best dad in the whole world!

    I hope everyone has a fantabulous day and week!

    ~Ally & Ashleys MOm

     

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  • Wow, your Daddy is quite busy in his retirement, LOL! How wonderful for you to share a farm with him. You are blessed to still have him, cherish him.~amie
  • Yes cherish him he sounds perfect.eom/WE
  • Oh, I cherish every second with him! When my grandpa was alive, it was the 3 of us.....I miss my grandpa SO MUCH!! I don't know what I'd do - seriously- without my daddy! :) ~A&A's Mom
  • And he jokes now and says that he doesn't know how he ever had time to 'work'!! LOL ~A&A's Mom
  • LOL I meant Andy Griffith is the BEST father.....and I couldn't name the worst....maybe Marvin Gaye, Sr.........~A&A's Mom

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    Posted by: Zoie
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 9:23:43 2008
    Message:
     Hi amie....would you believe, it's been so long since I've been here that I've forgotten how to respond to a topic.  I couldn't resist this topic when I stopped by to peek this morning.  The reason for my absence was my dad.  My father died very unexpectedly on March 4th and my life was in a whirlwind for quite some time. 

    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? John ....but everyone called him JACK

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?   He was Chief of Security at a General Motors plant in our town.

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? Daddy's Little Girl.....he was my hero and I miss him so very much.

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?   Father Knows Best..and I'll go along with WE...Ray Gardner...no one was as despicable as he was

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?   We had a very special relationship...he respected me and I respected him.  We were very much alike and that's not to imply that was all good.  In his eulogy, it was said that he had an Archie Bunker persona, but he was the biggest,softest Teddy Bear you could ever meet.  He was a good man.


     

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  • I've been wondering about you, now I understand your absence. I am so sorry for your loss, losing a parent is never easy at any age. My relationship with my father was complicated as well, but like your dad, he was a wonderful man. I hope we hear from you more often, take care~amie
  • It's nice to see you here, Zoie. I'm sure yesterday was a very difficult day for you. (((Zoie))) ...valleygirl
  • Great to see you Zoie. I am so sorry to hear about your fathers passing. I hope you are dealing okay.... you've got a great husband and wonderful kids to lean on. Oh, and by the way, I found Archie Bunker to be a big teddy bear! Have a great day dear! / Hillary
  • Being a daddy's little girl is so special that we'll feel it always in our hearts. {{{Zoie}}}.eom/WE

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    Posted by: W.E.
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 9:09:13 2008
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    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? Raymond Warren (but they misheard and on my birth certificate it says Raymond Morris).

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? He was a postman.

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? My dad was a great performer with a rich baritone. At times he was like Art Carney, other times Danny Kaye, yet others Robert Merrill (that voice). His signature song (to sing to mom) was If Ever I Would Leave You so I can't hear that without thinking of both of them. Also He would have done a top notch job with Colonel Pickering in My Fair Lady so that's another reminder. As the saying goes - I never had a father, I had a daddy!!

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? Best? Andy Griffith. Worst? Ray Gardner.

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE? I've shared this before. My dad was a baritone but the man had RANGE. He was ill with Bells Palsey and his lively personality was dampened for a very long time (about 18 months). Then came New Year's Eve. He was feeling much better, walked into the party right over to me and said help me with this one will ya kid. That was how he'd introduce us when we were going to sing. WELL he starts and is singing an Italian aria. I'm bent over HOWLING. All part of his incredible humor. I said help me with this one will ya kid????? Not only did I not know the language I couldn't hit those notes if I crossed my eyes and stood on my toes. I miss that dear, sweet, funny and adorable man every day of my life!!

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  • Ray Gardner was a horrendous father! It's obvious where your love of musical theater came from! How lucky you were, I'll bet Raymond was quite a character! I had a Daddy too, and I'm tearing up reading everyone's posts~amie
  • Have I ever told you how much I love your daddy? ...valleygirl
  • ...and I YOURS!! I just read your full wonderful history above. I remember the pic of your dad, too, so sweet!Another thing we have in common is my parents (whole family) loved Bitt right from the start. I swear he is as much a brother to my brothers as they are to each other. eom/WE

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    Posted by: SheilaT
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 8:49:50 2008
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    Hi Amie!!  Nice questions.

    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME?  Andrew

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION?  Journalist.  he covered the White House during the Truman, Eisenhower, and Kennedy years.

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER?   War and Peace . . . he took me to see the movie (alone, no other sibs or Mom), and afterwards said I looked like Audrey Hepburn.  I didn't, of course, but I believed I did for about five minutes.  

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS?  I loved Dan Conner on Roseanne.  He wasn't perfect by any means, but he loved his kids so much.

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?   I had two sisters and two brothers (and later a half brother) but i always believed I was his favorite.  Delusional, right?

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  • You just jogged my memory. I had one of those dates with my dad. he took me (alone) to Radio City Music Hall to see Father Goose. Bet you looked just like Audrey in your father's eyes.eom/WE
  • Dan Conner was a great father and husband. And I agree with W.E, to your father you were probably more beautiful than Audrey!~amie
  • Father Goose . . . also Audrey Hepburn! And my dad had many faults, but I loved him. /SheilaT

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    Posted by: MamaMia
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 8:40:03 2008
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    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? His name was Julius - the family called him Julie

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? He was a salesman and then an owner and driver of a New York taxi.

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? Always (I'll be Loving You Always)

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? Jim Anderson, the best - Ray Gardner, the worst.

    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE? Today (the 16th) would have been my father's birthday.  He passed away on the 17th. It's been thirty-seven years - hard for me to comprehend.  He was the most loving, fun father anyone could have.  He was always there for me, with a hug and with his special way, problems would disappear.  Sitting on his lap and laughing with him are wonderful memories and every Sunday the two of us would go to Coney Island. These are childhood memories of him.  In later years, he was supportative of me in the best and worst moments.  Time has smoothed the pain of him leaving but the pain truly never leaves as I think of him daily.

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  • My dad's birthday was June 20th. Many times it fell right on Father's Day. We had many fond memories of Coney Island, too. How they managed five kids on a train then several subways to get there from Jersey is hard to imagine but they did. Your dad sounds a lot like mine.eom/WE
  • What fond memories of you and your father, there is something about a father's hug that makes a little child feel so safe~amie
  • Yes, W.E., from your postings about your Dad it does seem that they were similar. They made us feel good and safe (as Amie said). MM

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    Posted by: amie
    Date posted: Mon Jun 16 8:27:33 2008
    Message:
    Such great questions, Amie (LOL)! Anyway, here are my answers.


    WHAT IS YOUR FATHER'S NAME? Joseph

    WHAT WAS (IS) YOUR FATHER'S OCCUPATION? General Contractor

    IS THERE A SONG, MOVIE, OR TV SHOW THAT REMINDS YOU OF YOUR FATHER? Any thing with Frank Sinatra, my dad loved him and all the Rat Pack. For the father/daughter dance at my wedding, we danced to "Young at Heart". I break down whenever I hear that song. My dad also bore a strong physical resemblance to Dean Martin.

    WHAT CHARACTER IN A MOVIE OR TV SHOW DO YOU THINK WAS ONE OF THE BEST/WORST FATHERS? One of the best TV dads IMO, was Heathcliff Huxtable from "The Cosby Show". He was loving, attentive, but assertive when he needed to be. He was strict, but he gave his children the space to be creative. The worst father is Captain Vidal, he was a stepfather in the Spanish film "Pan's Labyrinth". For those of you who have seen the film, is there a worse father figure. If you haven't seen the movie, I highly recommend it. It is haunting, but yet beautiful.


    IS THERE SOMETHING SPECIAL ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO SHARE?
    I was adopted when I was 3 hours old, and I was most certainly Daddy's Little girl. He was strict and protective to the point of obsessive at times. Once, this guy that all the girl's in HS wanted to date, Andy, asked me out. I was 15 and so in awe of this guy. Before he came to pick me up, I told him he had to meet my dad, he told me "I don't meet parents". So when he came to pick me up at my house, the idiot honks the horn. Well my dad goes out to the driveway and knocks on Andy's car window. When Andy rolled it down, my dad said "Do me a favor, you see that stop sign up the street? Take a right or a left and get the hell out of here, there is no f***ing way you are taking my daughter out if you don't have the balls to meet me." I was horrified, but looking back at the age of 40, Daddy did the right thing.

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  • My dad and I both love the Rat Pack (Dino being my fav, Frankie being his). My father sang many of Frank's songs. Love that story about your dad and I HOPE that guy learned a lesson. I don't meet parents?? Bet he did after that if he wanted a date.eom/WE

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