Topic Posted by: lilredhed
Date Posted: Wed Jan 16 12:39:47 2008
Additional Comments:
Hi everyone, I just thought I would post an update on Brittney.
Yesterday, I made home made mac and cheese. Brittney tried to tell me she was not hungry. I told her that if she didn't eat just a little bit then she was not allowed to use the phone or watch her favorite shows. So she sat there until she ate the required portion. I made her sit there for a little while longer too so that she couldnt sneak off to the bathroom. The worse part was that she cried and said it made her stomach hurt...(which is one of her excuses) So I sat down with her. She sat there for 30 minutes and then I let her get up to watch tv.
We have been doing this all week and so far she has gained back 2 pounds. I dont let her look at the scale when I weigh her. If she sees that she gained any weight she will freak out because she keeps saying that she is fat and needs to lose weight. She told me that she has a big butt.....I just looked at her and said "Brittney, you dont have a butt" But she wont listen to me. In her mind she is heavy, but really she is not. She weighs about 45 pounds now, her doctor said she needs to weigh 70 for her build.
So I went to the school and let them know that the body mass index charts that they are sending home are part of her problem. They dont seem to think so. I did get a little bit out of hand telling the principal that I was going to pull her out of school and home school her if the crap didnt stop. I have about had it with this school. Can you believe that she told me to calm down???? Well that made me even more mad. I cant say what else I told her but I will say this....they are going to think twice before they send another BMI chart home with the students.
I set some goals for Brittney, she has to gain a certain amount of weight and if she reaches that goal, she gets to go to the mall to buy something she wants. (not clothes) the doctor said that buying clothes might be a mistake because if she tries on a size that doesnt fit her she might get worse. so we are just going to buy her something like hats or earrings, necklaces or even some kind of decor for her room. Hopefully we get somewhere with this. she is too young to worry about her figure.
wish me luck
steph
Posted by: feemeister Date posted: Mon Jan 21 11:41:14 2008
Message: Red, have you pulled her out of cheerleading? It just looks to me like that started the whole thing, with their comments about her being too big to do some stuff. Can you get any other parents to complain too? Do you know any of them? fee
Posted by: Roxie Date posted: Fri Jan 18 22:31:07 2008
Message: LRH, I was glad to see your update. I have had your daughter on my mind alot. I can't imagine what that would be like. It sounds like what you are doing is helping. I can't imagine her weighing so little and thinking she's fat! I wish you luck with this situation and I pray that this is a phase that will pass. I'm glad you got them told at the school!! Hopefully, they won't do this any more.
Posted by: cc Date posted: Thu Jan 17 16:17:52 2008
Message: Hang in there red & I will be praying for you. Are you seeing the counselor? Is that who you mean when you say doctor? I'm worried that you guys are setting eating up to be a power struggle & potentially lifelong battle. I don't have suggestions, but I had a long converstaion with another woman whose child had trouble gaining weight. (completely different from both your situation and mine) She also has some psychological background & even at little cc's age, she was cautioning me to not let eating become a power struggle. (you've got 4 kids, you know what that's like anyway!) I know that's easy for me to sit here & say that. Do you think it would help if I would send pictures of dd (dear daughter) to her? Would she be able to look at them & realize that they have they have a simlilar body & that if she can fit dd's old pants, then she cannot be fat. Though, if you are wearing a slim jean to begin with, you cannot be fat. My heart aches for you. Let me know if you need anything. I posted a prayer request over at the DOOL board.
Posted by: tweety Date posted: Thu Jan 17 7:48:56 2008
Message: Best Wishes! Your daughter is blessed to have a mother who is paying attention and willing to go the extra mile.
Posted by: Janie Date posted: Wed Jan 16 15:10:15 2008
Message: Thanks for the update, LRD, keep up the good work with you daughter and you and she will continue to be in my prayers. Blessings, J.
Posted by: Barb Date posted: Wed Jan 16 15:06:13 2008
Message: Thanks for the update. Brittany may not want to hear that she is not fat from family members-some stranger of friend of yours could probably get through to Brittany somewhat better. JMO. Good for you contacting the school-good luck.
Posted by: maggimae Date posted: Wed Jan 16 12:59:39 2008
Message: Maybe Brittney would be more receptive to eating something that has less fat and calories than mac and cheese. Have you thought about seeing a nutritionist? My granddaughter had the reverse problem (she was heavy) and they saw a nutritionist and it did help some. Good luck. I'm sending good vibes your way.
