Topic Posted by: auntie en
Date Posted: Thu Jul 17 8:08:21 2008
Additional Comments: First of all, to all of you who showed support to me in my other post, I appreciate it. I feel rather isolated as I am at home in the summer from my job and don't see many other adults or friends because I am so busy with my kids. Sadly, it is hard to foster friendships in real life, and this little community here has shown itself over and over to be an amazing group of friends. So even though you couldn't actually reach out and hug me, your comments and support meant so much and made me feel less alone. thank you so much!!!
also, I posted in the other topic, but if you didn't go back, I did talk to my dad last night and he is very understanding that Dave can't make it to the wedding. He even mentioned he would understand if I stayed here, since it would mean traveling alone with all the kids out there, etc. I told him that was not an option for me, and he was glad. I was feeling so fearful he would be upset and that I would be stuck between my dad and my husband, so that took a lot of pressure off.
Dave offered to let me leave Eric here with him, since he is the hardest to travel with and manage. Like keeping him quiet and calm during the wedding, when I am doing a scripture reading. Then there are three different meals, the rehearsal dinner, the wedding reception, and a brunch the next day. Eric is notorious for not being able to sit through a meal, and with out Dave there to tag team, it will be a challenge. So I may decide to do that so I can actually sit and enjoy my time with my family. Of course, I want my grandma to be able to see Eric, it may be the last time as she is 90 and in poor health...I have time to decide on that, but it is an option.
so thanks for letting me ramble and for all your input.
Posted by: JuMPer Date posted: Sat Jul 19 12:48:07 2008
Message: auntie en,...you know what you need to do. Do it, and let the love and sorrow of this time flow where it needs to flow. You can't do everything, but do the things you can....
And may you go in peace....
Posted by: trkdrvrsqueen Date posted: Thu Jul 17 18:53:54 2008
Message: Today's the first day all week that I have been able to somewhat catch up on the posts. Just wanted to letcha know I'm thinking of you....sounds like your plate has been full lately. (I tend to think that's a compliment from God.) Take Care Auntie En. xo
Posted by: emmy Date posted: Thu Jul 17 14:06:36 2008
Message: I'm glad your dad understands. I had wondered about dividing up the kids, but forgot to mention that. Your older girls are ten, right? So they should probably be okay traveling, and you can devote most of your attention to Maya.
I know what you mean about getting great support from this community. :)
I would definitely vote for Eric to stay with Dave. Maybe you can do a video of Eric before you leave and put it on your camera to show to your grandma?
I'm so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. She sounds like a wonderful lady and was extremely talented. So sad.
I have another solution for you. What about you and the kids taking the Amtrak, attend the wedding etc. and after Katie's service, Dave could fly to your dad's wedding? That way, he'd still be able to attend her service, then be in the photos, see grandma, help with kids etc. for the evening and remainder of the trip.
Posted by: Blondie Date posted: Thu Jul 17 8:36:14 2008
Message: auntie en, I read every post in your friend's blog. Wow. It made me bawl. That is so tragic. She was a beautiful person with a beautiful voice. Anyway...is there anyone you could leave the kids with while you go to the wedding? Maybe you could suggest a "babysitting" room where the wedding is being held. It'll work out for you all, I'm sure. It always does.
Posted by: tizzy Date posted: Thu Jul 17 8:27:48 2008
Message: i listened to the songs from your friend and they are so beautiful. Such a loss. Did you say you were going to Iowa, what part? My sister lives in Ames Iowa.
