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Here's the letter...
DEAR ABBY: I am a 38-year-old woman. My fiance of five years, "Troy," and I live together and are the parents of a 5-month-old baby girl.
The club has several stories, with many secluded nooks, so Troy is hard to find. When I finally locate him, he's sweaty and has a weird look on his face. When I ask where he was and why he disappeared, I get no answers.
His friend covers for him. My fiance and I have never had a night out without this guy coming with us, and I'm tired of Troy's disappearing act. Something is going on.
He calls me paranoid, but I think if you leave your fiancee every time you go out, something is not right.
Am I being paranoid? Or does he have someone stashed in the club waiting for him? By the way, I make most of the money and pay for the nights out. -- SUSPICIOUS IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR SUSPICIOUS: Obviously something is up -- another woman, or possibly your fiance is using drugs -- and his best friend is there to make sure you don't find out. I hope you don't actually plan to marry this man, because he does not appear to be financially or emotionally ready for marriage. In fact, it appears he's happy as things are -- with you as his meal ticket.
However, to settle your curiosity, the next time you plan to go dancing, ask a girlfriend to come to the club separately and spend the evening tracking Troy. That should give you a clear picture of what has been going on behind the scenes.
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So, how many more times does her fiance have to disappear for 5 hours at a night club for her to dump the chump. How respectful is he towards her that he would leave her in a multi-story club for 5 hours at a time? And she thinks she wants to marry this loser?
To me, it isn't whether or not her fiance is using drugs or cheating on her. It is about respect. He doesn't treat her with respect. Why would she possibly want to volunteer for this for the rest of her life?
When we go out to karaoke, PB and Sensei will sometimes go into another room at the bar to smoke cigars and to pretend that they are Alan and Denny from Boston Legal. Cigars take a loooooong time to smoke. Even with that, PB comes by periodically to tell me some stupid joke. I appreciate that he makes some face time for me during his male bonding time with Sensei.
For awhile, they would bring 2 cigars each. I didn't like that. I told PB that was too long for him to be away from me while we're at the bar and that I missed him too much. Since then, he has limited it to once cigar while we're at the bar. That works for me.
38 years old? Holy cow. Yeah, how does this happen more than one time? OTOH, who is feeding the baby?
I do know this much.........if I had a 5 month old & adequate child care for 5 hours, I would be taking a 5 hour nap. Well, maybe a beer and a 4 hour 45 minute nap.
When you finally locate him (after five hours no less) he is sweaty and had a weird look on his face?
Just leave Troy and stop trying to figure it out.
I read this too, and thought she wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed!!!
"My fiance always has white powder under his nose, and tells me it's his special allergy medicine. Is this possible?"
LOL
'Am I being paranoid?'
NO!!!!!!!!! You're being STOOPID! Dump that chump and move on!
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I think a call to CPS is in order. You shouldn't be out clubbing almost every night for up to five hours when you have a baby at home and the father may be a suspected drug user. Sounds like these two are following the Britney Spears method of parenting.
Sadly, I think if this woman does ditch her fiance, she'd find another one just like him or even worse. I think the best thing to do is dump this guy, and get her priorities straight---like taking care of her child.
Why, oh why has this woman been his fiancee for FIVE FRIGGING YEARS?? You'd think she'd have gotten the hint that he wasn't interested in actually marrying her after being engaged for just one. But she's obviously not very bright if she's just now becoming "suspicious."
Clearly he's off doing something else - another woman or drugs. I love Dear Abby letters like this that are too stupid for words. "Dear Abby, I walked in on my boyfriend having sex with my sister. After he beat me senseless for not knocking, he proposed. Of course, I said yes! But his family has decided I'm a bad influence and don't want him anywhere near me, so he broke off our engagement and wants the ring back. Should I be mad at my sister?"
LMAO!
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Something is going on.
Ya think?????
And these people are allowed to procreate.
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This letter made Mr. ML and me roll laughing yesterday morning...
Wake up and SMELL the coffee...and check out his nose, while you're at it...
Who has time to club for over five hours when you have a five-month old?
Grow up!!! would be my advice.
Nicky
BTW - love the Denny/Alan references. That show is one of my absolute favorites. I never see WS as Captain Kirk anymore - unless Boston Legal make a reference to it!!!! Those two make me want to have a scotch and a cigar (which I have enjoyed on occasion!)
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