DOOL Discussion Group -- Female clergy with RC husbands?

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Topic: Female clergy with RC husbands?

Topic Posted by: Scottie
Date Posted: Sat Jul 12 11:51:28 2008
Additional Comments: Following on from Kat's comments re male superiority in religious establishments, plus the fact that we have at least two women clergy here on board, here is something I am curious about. Can this situation work? We have a young (female) transitional deacon at our church, from another diocese, but doing a sort of internship here. She told some of us that her husband who is doing his doctorate at an RC college here in town, is seriously thinking of becoming fully RC. She would remain in our denomination, as that is where her orders lie, and because the RC church does not allow women clergy, and neither does the denomination they had both come from previously before her calling, and this makes her very angry.

Because they are married, he couldn't become an RC priest, but could probably get a teaching job, but my mind can't get around how he could teach a theology that doesn't accept his wife's calling to the priesthood. Any thoughts?

Posted by: Wendy
Date posted: Sun Jul 13 17:41:14 2008
Message:
There is a big uproar in my town. It runs about 3/4th pro and 1/4 negative response. A married Episcopal Priest (legal to marry in that faith) converted and became a RC Priest. So now there is a married RC priest in a local parish. I dont see the big hubbub and Im Catholic, but the older generation is having a fit. Some has actually left that Parish as they dont want to support his family. He has 2 younger children and has been married for 15 yrs. I think its just stupid that people are upset.

Posted by: Bonk5
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 16:31:05 2008
Message:
What is RC, i am really bad with intials or letters that should spell out something.

We are Methodist. We have curretnly a female pastor. She is an ex Marine and a theater person. Her husband is also a pastor. They came here from Washington. She to work at our church, he at another church downtown. But the husband had problems with that church and how they were handling their money or something so he quit. He is now a pastor that goes to hospitals, home care, nursing homes for shut ins. He also works on other programs thru the church concil.

They have been married many years have a 8 yr. old son. Seems like things are going well. We have had make and female pastors. They all bring something to the church.

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Sorry, it stands for Roman Catholic.

Ok thanks! then i think it would depend on her religion. If they were simular it would be fine. But if one was RC(! got it) and one say 7th day Ad,,,,,,then it might be hard! ~~Bonk5~~

Hey Bonk did you see my response to you in the Tony Snow post?? I just looked back there & we both have one in your comment!! TDQ

Posted by: Cettie
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 14:39:16 2008
Message:
There's only one God, so denomination doesn't matter one dinkly jot. Each will walk their own path and many paths lead to God. That's all that matters.

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There's only one Heaven, so we all better work on getting along NOW LOL! Mandy

Okay, now hold up a sec!! If there is only ONE God, then why does religion matter anyway? What if we just follow the golden rule, and pray and give thanks? Why is this such a wrong idea for many church goers????? Remember, last week, I was told I was going to hell (Not to beat a dead horse or start anything more) but why would God be pissed if I'm not a RC? Or a JW? Or a Buddist?????????? Okay, someone is RIGHT and all others are WRONG, right? :) Kat

Kat don't trip.... I believe God/the Creator/Great Spirit/ whatever you want to call God....doesn't care what denomination you are....people seem to care....esp. fanatics. There is an old joke about the guy who dies and when he gets to the 'pearly gates' St Peter greets him and says let me show you around Heaven! So off they go.....ST.P says '' over here is where the Protestants live, and here live the Jews,,, over there are the Buddists....and on they go....then at one point St. Peter says ''Be really quiet while we pas by here....this is where the Catholics live and they think they are the only ones up here!''.................my point being it could be any brand of religion that has limited thinking (IMO)...I think God as I understand Him....loves us, cares for us, laughs w/us and crys w/us.....and as w/any loving Father/Mother gets frustrated w/ us! Bottom line I believe ther is a Heaven and we make our own Hell here on earth. My cousin is born again, I have a Pentacostal preacher cousin, a Southern Baptist preacher cousin, Catholic Sisters, and Mormon cousins. I know they all love & pray for me as I do for them....yet I know a couple of them who think they are on an Ocean Liner to Heaven while I'm in a Rowboat!! I'm ok w/that.....God Loves ME this I know! you too dear Kat. TDQ

TDQ, you make so much sense!!! It really can't matter. God created ALL of us. If we have doubts, and this is me - then God might just say - At least she is trying! She is looking and studying many things, and searching for HER truth. How could God possibly be angry with me for that? Thanks TDQ!! Kat

Kat, please don't fret yourself. I'm told to go to hell often. Don't let some nuts overturn your applecart! The next time you see them tell THEM to go to hell.................Cettie

LOL TDQ!! Your cruise ship/row boat comment cracked me up! Those that think they are on the cruise boat are gonna be shocked to see our little row boats at the same dock some day in Heaven!! Mandy

Mandy you are crackin me up & oh soooo right!! ; ) TDQ

Posted by: Mandy
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 14:36:29 2008
Message:

From the RC standpoint, he only has to answer for himself. He can become RC regardless of what his wife does.

I don't see a problem at all. He can attend the RCC, and hold 100% to the teachings regarding male only clergy. He can believe it, support it, etc....because his wife will be a deacon in a different denomination, that doesn't have the same rules. He doesn't have to agree OR disagree with the other church, because it isn't where he will attend. That is very different than joining the RCC not agreeing with basic teachings such as male only clergy. His wife isn't trying to become a RC deacon, which is not allowed.

I don't agree with a lot other churches, but I respect the fact that their church doesn't answer to mine (I am RC by the way). I actually fully support the RCC in all doctrine and am very devout, but I don't have a problem, or really care, that other churches have other rules and traditions. In the end we are going to the same Heaven, there won't be the RC and the Protestant sections.

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Thanks Mandy, I know you converted to Roman Catholicism yourself, and was hoping you'd respond from that aspect.

Posted by: ML
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 14:16:21 2008
Message:
Yeah...it's a free country. She can belong to any church she wants, and so can he. If she's Episcopal, that's pretty close to RC. The Church doesn't have to conform...I think that's kind of obvious at this point.

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Yes, she's Episcopal, and should be ordained to the priesthood some time this year.

Well, it's great she's being ordained. But isn't it her husband's choice to become Catholic? So what's the problem? It's not up to the Church...it's up to the individual...eom (ML)

Posted by: Penny
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 12:05:08 2008
Message:
I don't see it as a big problem. Most Catholics don't agree with everything that their church says, yet they remain Catholic.

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The thing is, if he is considering converting to that denomination, he must believe in all they teach, otherwise why bother? How can he support his wife's calling if it goes against that teaching?

He doesn't have to believe in all of their teachings to join and he doesn't have to believe in all of his wife's (or any of them for that matter). Penny