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Topic: Anyone Else Have Teens That Are Driving Them Nuts?

I hear ya! Things are very good at the moment, noone is asking for piercings or tattoos, but I have an almost 16 yr old daughter (who tries to parent me!) and a (moody, mumbling, videogameplaying) 13 yr old son. I am sending relatives pictures of my daughter and her boyfriend at his prom, and a picture of my son with his Xbox headset on. Caption: This is what Jordan looks like these days!

My sympathies are with you at this time!There are days I wish for babies and 4 yr olds, but for the most part, I'm happy with what I've got. And they are still cute, but in different ways. And at least everyone is potty-trained and sleeps through the night! You have to look at the bright side, lol

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Oh no Brillo, 15-23 were hell years? My baby is 15 right now and he's the one that probaly giving me the most stress. So I might have 7 more years of this? LOL, argghhh! I'm sure you're enjoying a well deserved break.

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Posted by: carmen
Date posted: Sun Apr 27 23:38:28 2008
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my daughter is now 20 and we've gone thru hell and back and she is a great kid. we have an understanding, finally. she is working and going to college and will xfer in a year or 2 to a university and move out. BUT as long as she is here no tats and no piercings. that's that.

if she wants, she can move out but we cut her off financially. as long as she is going to school and working all she pays is her car insurance. she shows us her grades and we pay for her college.

so far we are ok.

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Sounds like a common-sense approach to things Carmen. Good Luck!

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Posted by: MissyB
Date posted: Sun Apr 27 21:13:02 2008
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Tanya, my daughter is 23 now, but we had some not so good times when she was a teenager, and the funny thing was she was a really good girl.  I had just lost my Mom to Alzheimers and was going through menopause at the same time!  Try having that happen while you're dealing with a teenager who thought she knew it all and started dating a boy who I didn't trust from the start.  He cheated on his girllfriend while he was chasing after my daughter (which should have been a warning sign to my daughter).  He was very manipulative, a cheater and a liar which was very clear to me but unfortunately not to my daughter.  Looking back, I should have just kept my mouth shut and let her find this out for herself, but that is very hard to do when you are trying to protect your child from being hurt.  Needless to say, we had many arguments and didn't get along well during that time.  She finally realized he was a sleazy, manipulative jerk but to this date, we don't talk about him.  I'm just hoping that someday she'll actually admit to me that I was right about him.  Just keep thinking ''this too shall pass!'' 

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MissyB, sounds like you had some tough years there too. Glad your daughter got away from *Mr. Wonderful*, lol, and hope she continues to do well! Sorry, about your mom, you were definately getting hit from all sides at once there! Your last line says it all, I'm sure.

Hmmmm. that boy your daughter went out wtih sounds a lot like my ex boyfriend! Are you sure his name isn't Chris, LOL? Anyway, my mother (and the rest of my family) were SOOO frustrated w/ me that I would even consider dating such a jerk. Of course I would not listen. But now that he's long gone, I make sure to let my family know that they were right and I was wrong. They were only looking out for me, which is more than I can say about my cheating, drug-using, loser ex!.............DebS

Tanya, no those were definitely not good times! I will never understand what attracted my daughter to that cretin, but I am so glad she finally broke things off with him. We get along much better now, but to be honest with you it gripes me that she won't admit I was right (lol) and acts like everything that happened then was all my fault. Oh well, she's since met a wonderful young man that I think the world of, but they've hit a bump in the road, but I'm hoping things work out between them. Actually the first day I met him, I told my daughter I wanted him as my son-in-law! Anyway, I understand what you're going through even though our situations are different. Believe me, you are not alone.

DebS, haha no his name wasn't Chris, but it did start with a C! I grew up with a manipulative brother so I saw that in this boy from the start. I was very frustrated with my daughter that she just wouldn't listen to me, but again, I should have kept my mouth shut, but that is really hard for me, haha. How nice of you to let your family know that they were right and were only looking out for you. My daughter still won't admit it. I told my husband the other day that that is one of the things I want to hear from her sometime in my lifetime! But knowing her, it will probably never happen. Sorry you went through a bad time with your ex.

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